How To Have a Positive Mindset When You Just Aren't Feeling It!

October 17, 2019 2 min read 2 Comments

How To Have a Positive Mindset When You Just Aren't Feeling It!

The secret to a positive mindset is YOU.  

Not how you expected this post to start right? You expected to hear how you should meditate more, or take a deep breath and move on. Nope. It’s pretty simple really. Your mindset, your attitude, your power to move forward is all reliant on you.  

I read this powerful quote once and haven’t been able to forget it.  

“The unhappy person resents it when you try to cheer him up, because that means he has to stop dwelling on himself and start paying attention to the universe. Unhappiness is the ultimate form of self-indulgence.” - Tom Robbins

It’s deep.  Reread it if you need too.  I think so often we look to so many external solutions to make us feel better.  Whether it’s a person, a thing, or even an experience, we think all these things outside of us is what we need to turn our mindset around.  

It’s a hard reality, but the secret to changing your mind, even when you aren’t feeling it, is to hold yourself accountable and look inside.  Are you indulging unhappiness? I get it. Some days it’s just easier to sit in it. The harder step is to challenge yourself, fix what’s wrong inside, and move forward.  Growth is hard.  

If you are looking for a change in mindset though this is where it begins.  It doesn’t begin with your coworker, charge nurse, or the doctor you’re working with.  This can be difficult when a boss isn’t treating you great, or a patient is yelling at you.  It’s pretty easy to look to those reasons for why you are having a bad attitude or bad day. The problem with this is you are allowing something outside of you to have control and power of you and your mind.  Why? I’ve had to ask myself the same question.  

When you realize someone else is controlling how you feel it quickly snaps you out of it.  Why are you giving a patient so much power? Why are you giving a charge nurse so much power over you?  You create your mindset, not them. When you are in control of your mind these things simply fade away.  

A patient is yelling at you?  So what. You have ten things to be grateful for, and a laundry list of things that you’ve been filling your mind with that make you feel so good it’s not worth it to feel bad.  Mindset begins with taking back control and owning the power of your own mind. Once you do this you’ll be amazed how many times in a day you used to allow someone else to control it.  

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Lynn Autry-Spain
Lynn Autry-Spain

August 21, 2020

I forgot that I still have some of Tom Robbins on my bookshelf, he was my favorite back in the 80’s. I was in my 20’s and life was so different then. But here you are, quoting him! Maybe I don’t feel so old and out of touch with the baby nurses. We have more in common than just what we do everyday but you have to reach out to know it. Thank you


April 20, 2020

List of Cat’s books on mindset, please and thank you!!!

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